the merits of raising your voice

23 Apr

post lunch conversation today focused on the value of arguing.  the art of argumentation is a skill that we strive for yet it seems so many of us are reluctant to lock into verbal sparring, why is that? is it the feelings thing? is it the emotional side of it all? do people feel like they are being attacking if there is disagreement regarding their idea?


Posted by on April 23, 2009 in Uncategorized


4 responses to “the merits of raising your voice

  1. Stephanie

    April 23, 2009 at 1:03 pm

    I think there is value in argumentation, but I don’t particularly like the way most people engage in the process. You are right, it is an art and a skill, but unfortunately, many people tend to engage in ways that come across like an attack and often do hurt feelings. I think I have very “thick skin” and am not easily offended, but I could name a bucketful of folks who could use a little staff development in this area. I guess I also think that feelings do matter, so if someone is not being cognizant of mine or someone elses, it really bugs me.

  2. Jeri

    April 23, 2009 at 4:04 pm

    Mike Smoker makes the point that the art of argumentation has been lost. I hail from a family of vigorous debaters. One question/one statement and it was off to the races. I find it healthy and invigorating when the parameters are clear. I agree many don’t know how to argue which I think is simply rich debate, exploring ideas through other people’s perspectives. It involves confronting the issues and some don’t like confrontation and/or being questioned. I encourage vigorous debate–I would hope that we can engage in the kind of argumentation that will improve our work and provide enlightment.

  3. Heather Tate

    April 24, 2009 at 12:53 pm

    I have had to learn how to argue and one tip that has been invaluable to me is phrasing statements with “I” instead of “You.” For example, I feel that… or When this happens, I consider it… instead of the pointing word of you, You, YOU!

  4. karen vanek

    April 24, 2009 at 4:15 pm

    To me productive conflict resolution is the greatest measure of the strenght of a relationship whether that be professional or personal. This is truly an art form at the highest pinnacle of relationship skills. However, it’s so hard to be productive when perspectives about disagreeing are so diverse and sometimes so fragile and misinterpreted. On the other hand, when conflict resolution works, it really charges you up to make changes and make things better.


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